Today is a very special day. 8 years ago I married my best friend and my soul mate.
Several weeks ago I read a blog post saying that there is no such thing as a soul mate, and you should never WAIT for your soul mate because it’s an ideal that doesn’t exist. And that you shouldn’t teach your children to WAIT for their soul mate. I happen to disagree with most of that, kindly of course.
I met my husband almost 18 years ago now and fell for him within the first two days of spending time together. He took my hand to pull me out of a mosh-pit-gone-bad and then never let go of my hand. I can’t tell you what it was, but it was just right. Unfortunately, there were a lot of things working against us at the time, but neither of us wanted to give up on it. Until one day it just fell apart like glass shattering. We were being pulled in different directions and we could no longer do the “long distance thing”.
You see, during those first four years I was living in a town 4 hours away for the first two, I traveled to West Africa for the second time (this time for 4 weeks), I moved to France for 4 months, then to London for 3 more, and then to California for our last year as a couple. I was a wanderlust, living a nomad-like life and not willing to give that up just yet.
Looking back, I’m amazed that we survived 4 years at all with all of that. I was told “If you love it, let it go”. And although I TOTALLY disagreed at the time, I can look back now and see that it was the right decision.
Fast forward to 4 years later, and we were re-introduced in a very worlds-collide kind of way and we have been together ever since.
I know in my heart that he is my soul mate. Did I wait around for him? No. Did I almost “settle” for someone else? Yes. Would I have been nearly as happy? Absolutely not. Is life easier being with your soul mate? Absolutely not! Are we “perfect”? Absolutely not. But we are perfect for each other and I believe very strongly that the Universe had a plan for us, even though I didn’t trust in it. The plan would put us exactly where we are right now. Older, stronger, more in love than ever, and now with three beautiful children. THANK YOU, UNIVERSE!
We moved into a new house 2 months ago and we are lucky enough to have a room where the moonlight literally drenches our pillows as we sleep. I feel so blessed. And this morning, as we woke up on our anniversary morning with two of our three children already in our bed, our daughter looks up and says “Look Mommy! You can see the stars!”. Living in a big city, that’s not common. My husband looks up and says “Look! There’s Orion!”. He’s followed us as he always has.
You see, all those years together but apart we’ve always had Orion. We knew that wherever we were, we could both look up at Orion knowing the other could see it as well. It was kind of our “string” over that long distance. And this morning, he was there, shining over our new life and giving us a chance to introduce him to our children.